Some of you might already know that I have a history of being sexually abused as a child. I have shared my story more then once, so this is not news for those of you who know me personally. This shaped so much of my childhood and teen years in a negative way. But by God’s grace, He brought healing. Where there was death, he turned it into life. If you have been sexually abused I hope you are able to surround yourself with people who love God and want to see you heal. Healing only can come by the power of Jesus Christ. He used people, godly counselors, and books to facilitate my healing. And then, years later as I continued in the road of healing, in his love for me, he brought pain into my life. Sorrow was the catalyst that really threw me into his arms and I had to choose to either trust him more deeply or hate him. By God’s grace I chose to trust and in that trusting came even more life, despite what previously had felt like sorrow and death. God is crazy my friends! I don’t know how he does it. But he loves so big and wide that he allows even pain to become an avenue of his love for us. I am forever indebted to him for loving me.
So a quick post for you, full of links to good books worth reading! If you are struggling with shame from your past, or if you (or a daughter) is dealing with sexual sin, here are some books that I have read and are worth mentioning. Not only is it important for our own personal growth to deal with the stuff in our past (this doesn’t mean we sit around and blame other people for all our problems but we do acknowledge that things happened that should not have happened), we also need to deal with our past so that we are more equipped to help our children. If I am confused and insecure in my sexuality, how can I have open conversations with my children about their questions concerning their sexuality? I still don’t have all the answers but I am able to point them to the One who does because I know first hand how loving and gracious He is to those who seek Him.
You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart. – Jeremiah 29:13